The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up My Social Media
Marie Kondo is the creator of the ebook The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, and the star of the Netflix present Tidying Up with Marie Kondo. She has turn out to be a global guru for cleansing up and discovering pleasure whereas doing it. She preaches expressing gratitude for possessions that you simply want to preserve, in addition to ones you don’t want anymore.
From the time the present got here to Netflix, I had been dying to attempt it and expertise among the pleasure round which the idea was constructed. The solely downside was that I don’t personal many issues, so it was time to get artistic.
Lately, I’d been experiencing a form of identification disaster. I had been feeling poorly about myself and observed I used to be placing an excessive amount of emphasis on my bodily look. Now, none of this was new, however the urge to do one thing about it definitely was.
I’ve all the time skilled insecurities, and a whole lot of my time on social media was spent counting likes and posting photos that I seemed the prettiest in, as an alternative of the happiest. It turned virtually obsessive. After posting a photograph, I discovered myself checking my cellphone each 5 minutes to see the way it was being acquired. My vanity has all the time relied a bit of an excessive amount of on others, however at this level, it felt out of hand.
Now, I do know my vanity points go deeper than Facebook, however I used to be positive it wasn’t my creativeness that my on-line presence was making issues worse. So I made a decision to do some spring ‘tidying up’ of my social media.
I began by deleting my Twitter account. I had not used it since highschool, in order that was not troublesome. It additionally seems I wasn’t as humorous as I assumed I used to be again then, so part of me was blissful the proof was erased. Next, my Instagram accounts. I had three in whole and couldn’t bear in mind the passwords for 2 of them, so it was an added pleasure attempting to determine these out. I made a decision to delete two of the three.
Lastly, eight years value of images and posts on my Facebook account wanted to be sorted.
Sorting by way of the photographs
Writing this, it seems like my choice to scrub out my social media was one primarily based on cautious thought. In actuality, it was extra like the results of a breakdown. I began out indignant at myself for turning into so shallow and reliant on validation from others. Then I turned indignant at different folks for feeding into this vicious cycle.
I needed to utterly erase the particular person I used to be. I went by way of every photograph and determined whether or not or not the picture introduced me pleasure. I assumed fastidiously about my intentions in posting the photograph. I found that almost all of them had been posted for others, not for me. If I had been true to myself, I might have had extra images the place I seemed blissful, not the one out of fifteen tries the place I seemed the prettiest. None of this felt like me.
I needed to ask myself, “Am I really this self-obsessed person that I appear to be online?”
I needed to ask myself, “Am I really this self-obsessed person that I appear to be online?” I mirrored on my day-to-day life and the emphasis I placed on my look. The solely occasions I may go away my home with out obsessing over my make-up and garments had been once I was going to work. I had beforehand developed the mantra, you don’t should be engaging to be helpful, a phrase I created in school when I discovered myself not attending faculty on the times I didn’t like how I seemed.
Next was going by way of my posts. Many of them had been humorous, and this struck me as odd as a result of I’ve not felt humorous in a very long time. This was additional proof that my on-line presence was deceptive and faux. I started to fret that this disconnect was overflowing into my on a regular basis life.
As I deleted my images and posts, I felt so clear, so free from this picture, this model of myself that solely cared about what others thought—the model of myself that I not needed to be.
I do know Facebook isn’t like this for everybody. I really like social media. For lots of people, deleting every thing would possibly really feel excessive, however I needed a recent begin. I do know different folks can relate to that. I presently solely have one Instagram account devoted to my artwork. I let myself preserve it with the promise that I might not submit any photos of myself. I should be happy with various things, larger issues, than my look.
I did really feel pleasure
My Facebook web page presently has no photos of me. I don’t intend to maintain it this fashion without end. When the time comes the place I can take an image of myself and prefer it for what it’s—a reminiscence, and never a contest with myself that I can’t win, I’ll submit it.
Until then, I’ll benefit from the empty area and the enjoyment that this tidying up has created for me. I’ll give attention to constructing a model of me that’s so safe and assured that I don’t really feel like half my value is constructed from a ‘Like’ button.
Cleaning out my social media definitely gained’t repair each situation in my life, however it was undoubtedly an excellent place to start out. And Marie Kondo was proper, I did really feel pleasure. I sorted by way of images and, ultimately, determined to maintain the one factor that introduced and continues to carry me pleasure: my genuine self.
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